This post is all about how to be the best girlfriend for your partner.
You want to be the best girlfriend to your partner, right? You want to know how to set yourself up to become the best girlfriend your partner has ever had that they don’t want to leave. How do you set yourself apart from your partner’s past relationships? Here are tips for how to be the best girlfriend or your partner.
I have been in this dating game for a while and learned the many ways of being a great girlfriend from both my mistakes and others’ mistakes. Because there is so much that I have learned over the past few years of dating, I wanted to share my tips with you.
Keep in mind that all these tips work for me because of the relationships that I have and had. You and your partner may be different but even so, these tips should make it easier for you to become the best girlfriend ever.
This post is all about how to be the best girlfriend for your partner.
Disclaimer
I am not an expert in how to be the best girlfriend for your partner. I only speak from experience. This post is about the best girlfriend; however, girlfriend can be replaced with any partner title that you see fit. I only say girlfriend because I am a girlfriend and makes it easier to talk about and give perspective. I will not be held liable or responsible for anything that happens in the event that you take any of this advice. All the contents of this post are for informational purposes only and you, the reader, will read at your own risk.
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Let’s begin.
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How To Be The Best Girlfriend For Your Partner
1. Communicate Every Emotion That You Have
Communication is key in every relationship. I’m sure you’ve heard that saying plenty of times before. To communicate with your partner means to tell them everything that you feel when it involves them.
If you want something to be done a certain way, make sure you make it clear to them. If you’re feeling some time of way at a random time of day that could potentially impact your relationship, then make sure you communicate it with them. It doesn’t matter whether you think your emotions are stupid or that you’ll get over it soon (okay just kidding your emotions always matter), you need to tell your partner anyway.
You and your partner both decided to do life together both physically and emotionally. It may sound like an excessive amount of communication but it’s so important to keep each other on the same page. Your partner will have a much easier time understanding you and being there for you when you need it.
If your partner is the one you have a problem with at the moment such as they keep making a mess that you don’t like, you need to communicate that to them and resolve the issue before you start holding grudges. Do not confide in others. The issues you have in your relationship should be resolved within the relationship (mostly). You should try to resolve the issue with the person that you have an issue with. There is no reason to get outsiders involved.
The rule of thumb that I follow is to always try to avoid going to bed upset. Bedtime would be your deadline to resolve your issues and on. Besides, the bedroom is supposed to be a sanctuary of peace and relaxation. You definitely don’t want to bring your issues in there.
2. Listen To Your Partner When They Speak
I just mentioned how communication is key in any relationship. But even if you are good at telling your partner your wants and feelings, you need to make sure you can listen to theirs too.
When they are really excited about something, show them that you care and that you’re excited for them too. Don’t give advice. Don’t tell them what to do next. Just listen to them and let them express their emotions.
This concept goes for if they are stressed or having a rough time. When they share with you their negative thoughts from work or share something they didn’t like that happened between you two, just listen. Hear what they have to say before you make assumptions. Listen to what your partner has to say before you give your input.
Only after hearing the whole story will you be able to give an appropriate response.
3. Be There When You Say You Will
Being accountable in your relationship is really important if you want to ensure that you and your partner stay a healthy couple.
When you make plans, make sure you show up. Don’t be late. Don’t postpone (unless it’s an absolute emergency and can’t wait).
If you want to be the best girlfriend for your partner, you want to make sure that they can count on you to be there when you say you will be. The worst thing you could do for your partner is making them wonder.
For example, if you had a birthday party, would you want to be wondering whether your partner would show up or not? Or would you rather know with certainty that they will be there for you no matter what?
I hope you said the latter because that’s the only choice that makes sense for me. (I’m still working on this bad habit of mine of showing up late, I’m sorry to my boyfriend every time.)
4. Know Your Partner’s Love Language
If you don’t know what love languages are, there are 5 categories. You have quality time, acts of service, words of affirmation, gifts, and physical touch.
I learned about love languages a couple of years ago and didn’t realize how important they were until I met my current boyfriend. He and I learned that our top love language was quality time but is #2 was physical touch and my #2 was acts of service.
So why are love languages important? Our love language shows how we want to be loved by another person.
So for both of us, just being together and doing things together is what helps keep our relationship happy and healthy. For our #2 love languages, we have to be able to give the other person the love that they want despite it being different between us.
Unfortunately, physical touch is my least important love language. So whenever he starts using physical touch such as hugging and hand-holding, I don’t love it as much as he does.
Don’t get me wrong, I still love it, but he does it more often than I would like sometimes. I understand that physical touch is his love language though and I am okay with it because I love him.
Ultimately, the point of knowing each other’s love language is to give your partner the love that they want and deserve. So even though physical touch is my lowest love language, I still give him love through physical touch because I know that is an important love language to him.
Overall, know your partner’s love language and give them the love that they want. After you both have gotten into that routine, your relationship will be on its way to long-term success. No one’s needs are neglected.
5. Remind Your Partner That You Love Them
You can remind your partner that you love them by nurturing their top love languages but sometimes just giving a simple “I love you” can be even more powerful than those.
Not only will telling your partner directly that you love them be an act of nourishing your relationship, but it also makes it very clear to your partner where you stand in the relationship.
If you didn’t remind your partner of your feelings in the relationship, your partner will start to wonder where your feelings are in this instance too.
As I mentioned before, the last thing you want to do to your partner is making them wonder. Make your intentions as clear as possible so that it’s easier for them to know where you both stand as a couple.
6. Make Time For Your Partner
No matter how busy you are, you need to make time for your partner. Not only will you keep having quality time with your partner but it will also show your partner that you still care about them.
If you keep postponing dates or decide to do something other than be with your partner, this will cause your partner to start feeling neglected.
Neglecting your partner will make you appear as a bad girlfriend to your partner for sure and they might not want to be with you anymore. It shows that you don’t have your partner as a priority.
No one wants to feel like a second option, especially not your partner.
You’re just wasting their time if they’re always waiting for you to come around to spend just one moment with them.
7. Accept That Your Partner Has Different Opinions That Are Just As Valid As Yours
We can all agree that every person in existence is different with different views and opinions. Partners are no exception. Every relationship has disagreements and that’s not a bad thing at all.
Having different opinions from your partner keeps you separated as individuals. You don’t want to become completely one with your partner (it’ll get boring quickly).
My partner and I get into mini arguments all the time about our views but at the end of the night, it doesn’t really matter. (One night, we were arguing over a concept in Harry Potter in case you were wondering.)
The point is that you need to accept that your partner isn’t always going to agree or understand your point of view. That’s okay. It really depends on what you are arguing about though.
If you’re on different pages when it comes to topics that directly affect your relationship and individual lives such as money or how to raise kids, then yes, you need to sort those and talk through those topics maturely.
But even if you and your partner don’t agree, to be the best girlfriend you need to listen to their reasoning and try to understand their view. They have reasons for believing what they do and you need to understand them.
Your partner isn’t wrong for having a different opinion. Try to compromise and meet in the middle somewhere.
8. Give Your Partner Space
Giving your partner space in a relationship is important because you want to give both of you room to miss each other.
Giving your partner space is just as important as hanging out with them because it helps you continue to grow as an individual. If you both did absolutely everything together, you’re at risk of running out of things to talk about and you might get tired of each other in general.
Personally, I love that I get space from my partner. We go a week to two weeks on average of not seeing each other but I still appreciate all the me-time I get.
Also, because we go so long without seeing each other, it makes seeing each other that much more special.
Don’t get me wrong, one to two weeks without seeing my boyfriend is too long and I miss him all the time, but it’s been working out for us lately and the amount of me-time I get is pretty great. (We do a sort of long-distance relationship.)
You should try giving space for yourself and your partner if you haven’t already. Your partner will most definitely think you are the best girlfriend because you let them have time for themselves to pursue the hobbies that they normally do alone or can’t share with you in the way they want.
(It might also show them how great their life is with you in it compared to when they were single because now almost everything day do is going to be different and maybe even better now that you’re in the back of your partner’s head 24/7.)
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RECAP on How To Be The Best Girlfriend for Your Partner
- Communicate Every Emotion That You Have
- Listen To Your Partner When They Speak
- Be There When You Say, You Will
- Know Your Partner’s Love Language
- Remind Your Partner That You Love Them
- Make Time For Your Partner
- Accept That Your Partner Has Different Opinions that are just as right as yours
- Give Your Partner Space
Ending Note
If you want more dating advice, you should check out Katie at datingbitch.com. She has loads of information that I’m sure you’d find useful when it comes to your love life.
Thank you so much for reading this far. I hope my tips help you in your love life.
The relationship I am in now is the best I have ever had because I focus on all the tips that I listed above to nourish my relationship with my partner to let him know that he is loved and cared about by me.
Let me know in the comments below your thoughts and experiences when it comes to being the best girlfriend for your partner. Have a good day!
This post was all about how to be the best girlfriend for your partner.
According to Chren says
Great post! We believe that communication is number one in relationships.
Lily-Anne says
I also think that communication is number one in relationships and that relationships won’t be able to grow without it. Thank you for reading!