This post is all about how to get into a relationship.
The biggest question we all have at least once in our lifetime is how to attract your ideal partner. Don’t lie. I know you did. Whether it was last year, 30 years ago, you absolutely did. I’ve had a few love interests where love went and where nothing was ever started (because I’m a wimp). But now, I can say I am in a successful relationship and am confident to share some tips that I have learned across my love life journey.
This post is all about how to get into a relationship.
Disclaimer
I am not an expert in relationship advice and speak from my experiences only. This post should be used for informational purposes only. I cannot guarantee that you will attract your ideal partner but I can guarantee that you’ll be at least one step closer. You, the reader, will read at your own risk. I will not be held liable or be responsible for any consequences that arise should you take my advice. Be safe.
This post is also an excuse for me to talk about my boyfriend and snippets of how our relationship came to be.
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Let’s begin.
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How to Get Into a Relationship
1. Make a List of Non-Negotiables
It’s very important that you make a list of non-negotiable traits when you are on the hunt for an ideal partner. Not only will having a list ensure you know what you want, but it will also help save you time from trying to get to know people that don’t match your list. There’s no point in going on that second date if they don’t meet your non-negotiable traits, right?
Maybe you’re religious and you want them to be religious too. Maybe you’re super into working out and absolutely need your partner to be as workout obsessed as you. These are just the first few examples that came to mind but know that there are tons of others that you might include on your list.
My main non-negotiable traits are that my ideal partner has to be patient and family-oriented.
Honestly, having this list of non-negotiables made my love life a little easier in deciding how I want to go about my relationships and how to figure out if it’s going to work out.
I was fortunate to meet my current boyfriend when I did because he pretty much checked off everything on my non-negotiables list. I wonder what his non-negotiables were. I’m happy. Hopefully, he’s happy (lol).
Start writing your non-negotiables list!
2. Always Stay True To Yourself
This tip is a known fact that the best way to attract your ideal partner and help the relationship last is to be yourself. Everyone knows that.
Does everyone do it? Of course not. But a majority of those times, those people that are faking their personality to make it happen aren’t having successful relationships and aren’t happy in them either. Don’t be afraid to not agree.
Before I met my current boyfriend, I would act how I thought my crushes would prefer and participate in activities that they were interested in even when I wasn’t interested and knew nothing about it.
Trying to find interest in their interests isn’t entirely a bad thing but for me, I wasn’t acting like myself. It was bad the way I was doing it because I knew that if I didn’t like them, I would not have cared an ounce. I also used to put myself after their needs which were terrible for my mental health.
With my current boyfriend, I put 100% of myself out there. If I don’t agree with something he says or does, I’ll say so. I was BRUTAL to him and I don’t regret any of it. Our relationship is the strongest relationship I have ever been in.
The best people are the ones that respect you for staying true to yourself. They understand that you can believe what you believe and that your opinion isn’t wrong. Not only will you appear as a strong independent individual but you will also appear as someone trustworthy, respectable, and overall likable.
3. Be Willing to Give Anyone a Chance
There is going to be a moment where you realize you can’t be picky when you’re wanting to be in a relationship. This is where I say that you need to be willing to give anyone a chance.
If you’re driven by looks, the first impression is sometimes not enough to decide that you don’t want to give them a chance.
I will admit that a majority of the guys I ended up dating weren’t the people that I found very attractive. Of course, over time I got to know them and they eventually became more attractive to me as I got to know them. Even though I wasn’t attracted to them at first, I saw the opportunity of something potentially happening and went for it.
That’s how my boyfriend and I got together. Again, I was brutal to him. Maybe one day he’ll decide to share his side of the story.
4. Actively Pursue Your Passions
Don’t be confused because actively pursuing your passions is indeed relevant to attracting your ideal partner. When you actively pursue your passions, you might end up finding someone pursuing the same passion as you, and you both can bond over that activity together.
Of course, for the relationship to work, you need to go past that passion and find out more about them in other areas too. But meeting your ideal partner through your passions is a wonderful way to break that ice and start somewhere.
Unfortunately, passions did not play a part in my relationship with my boyfriend; however, my aunt met her husband of 15+ years (maybe?) on a tennis court. So, it happens!
Keep pursuing your passions. Meet like-minded people. Your person is out there.
5. Go Out Into the World
The only way you’re really going to attract your ideal partner is to put yourself out there into the real work. You have to make yourself known to your potential partners.
You could put yourself out there by letting your friends know that you’re interested in dating again. They might know someone that you might be interested in and could set you two up together for a potential first date.
You could even try blind dates that would be set up through online platforms but PLEASE do that safely.
Meet this blind date in a public place and always let at least one trustworthy person know where you are. If you want to be extra safe, ask if they could “follow” you on your date from afar so that if you need help, you’re never alone.
Anyway, the main priority is to go out, do activities, meet new people, be outgoing, and reach out to old mutual friends. Do something!
6. When You Think You Found Them, Talk to Them
This is the hardest part of any new relationship. You have to build up the courage to talk to the person you’re interested in. There’s a chance that they might not know you exist.
There are some studies or facts online that state that your chances of getting with the person you’re interested in will increase if you talk to them and let them know that you’re interested.
My thought process for how this works is that since this live interest knows you like them, they’ll feel flattered and won’t be able to stop thinking about you. They’ll start asking questions such as “what do they like about me? Do I like them too?”.
The more the love interest thinks about you and analyzes everything, it’s almost inevitable that they’ll start liking you in some form. This won’t guarantee a successful relationship but it’s a good start.
My boyfriend had the courage to buy takis and bananas, and go through my line (because I was a cashier). That was the extent of it though. He never actually said anything to me. But because he made himself known to me, I was more comfortable with him and was willing to be friends with him.
We also worked together and I didn’t know anyone else so it worked out in his favor.
Ending Note
And there you have it. These are my 6 tips on how to attract your ideal partner. So what are you waiting for? Go out and attract your ideal partner! I know you’re going to meet your person someday.
Let me know what you think about my tips. Tell me some love life stories that you have whether they’re successful or not. If you don’t want to do any of that, then have a great day!
This post was all about how to get into a relationship.
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