This post is all about the best ways to not compare yourself and why.
We all know that feeling of constantly comparing ourselves. Half of us don’t even realize we’re doing it until someone else tells us so. But why do we do it?
Why can’t we all accept that we are all different people with different lives that we are meant to live? Why can’t we all just live in our own peace?
Because we are human, we are complicated, and we want what everyone else has even though our lives are just as satisfactory.
I’m going to (hopefully) help you stop comparing yourself so that way you can be happier and more positive with yourself and the world you live in.
This post is all about the best ways to not compare yourself and why.
Disclaimer
This post is for informational purposes only and should not be taken seriously. If I offend you in any way, it was 100% intentional. Any events that I describe below are coincidental and are not referring to any real-life people whatsoever. I cannot guarantee that you’ll be happier if you take these tips to stop comparing yourself. I will not be held liable or responsible for any of the consequences that may arise should you decide to take my advice.
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Let’s begin.
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3 Best Ways To Not Compare Yourself
1. Delete Social Media
When you’re on any form of social media, you’re looking at the lives of many others. What you need to remember is that people only show you what they want you to see.
Those picture-perfect poses everyone has? It probably took them hundreds of takes and months or even years of practice to mail that perfect pose.
You also have the content creators that show you their aesthetic-looking lives when it comes down to their clothes or their living situations and it makes you feel as if you’re less than them.
If you want to start the process of not comparing yourself, try deleting social media first. Within a week at least, you will most likely start to see changes in your everyday behavior and your outlook on life. Especially yours.
You won’t have anyone to compare your life to because you aren’t paying attention to anyone else anymore. It’s just you now.
2. Know That Everyone Was Like You At One Point
If you want to take away from one idea out of this entire post, it’s this one. EVERYONE was like you at one point. That person who’s a millionaire living in a mansion and a housemaid. They were like you working their tooshies off to make it big in life.
That person that’s dumping everything they were taught to do to find confidence in themselves and show their personality to the world was once just like you with insecurities and self-doubts.
Remember that you aren’t the only one trying to make it in life. You may feel like you’re working harder than other people but remember that people that share their lives only share the parts that they want you to see. They’re only showing the highlights.
Keep going. Be consistent. And don’t compare your day 2 to someone else’s year 3.
3. Know What You Do Have
Instead of focusing on what you don’t have (like looking at all the things other people are doing and buying), you should focus on what you do have.
Do they have a fancy car that they paid for themselves? You have a car that works just as fine. Lol. That was probably a bad example.
What I am trying to say is that when you are envious of what other people have, sit back and look at what you have. There is a high chance that you probably have the same thing that they do, it just looks different.
What you have might be even better than what they have if you focus on the good parts of it.
Why Not To Compare Yourself
1. You’ll Feel Like A Failure
When you compare yourself to other people and start becoming envious of them, you’ll feel like you’re a failure. This feeling of failure comes from you thinking that you aren’t as lucky or as talented enough to get to where they are and to live the life that they live.
You need to stop these feelings because they are only showing their highlights. You don’t see any of the work that they put into showing you these images or videos.
The cute outfits the girls are always wearing on social media probably came with loads of research and fashion trial and error. It just so happens that you started seeing her after she had already figured it out.
2. You’ll Want More
Because you’re always comparing yourself to the people around you, nothing will ever be enough for you.
You’ll finally get your hands on whatever material or experience that they had but then it won’t be as good as you had hoped. You fantasized so largely about what it was like to have it for yourself that you didn’t think about how it could go badly.
Overall, it wasn’t as grand as you thought it would be.
3. You’ll Be Sad All The Time
Because you’re constantly comparing yourself and beating yourself down about how you’re not good enough among other negative feelings, you’ll just be sad all the time.
If you’re sad all the time, you won’t be able to live the life that you should be living and deserve to be living. Everyone wants to be happy. So why can’t you do that too?
When you stop comparing yourself and start feeling content with the life you were given and/ or worked for, you’ll feel loads happier and you’ll feel like you can do anything that you put your mind to.
4. You’ll Rush To Get Stuff Done
After you’ve compared yourself, maybe you’ll start analyzing how you can get to where this other person is. You’ll start practicing some skills, you’ll start buying a lot of stuff, and you’ll try to recreate their life for your own.
But because you are so desperate for their life, you’ll try to fast forward it and do multiple things at once. Multitasking can be counterproductive, honestly.
You won’t dedicate your mind to one thing and so you won’t be able to do anything correctly or accurately. (Did I just say the same thing twice? I think I’ve been repeating myself this entire blog post anyway.)
5. You’ll Forget Who You Are
Now that you’ve been comparing yourself for so long and are desperately trying to find ways to live other people’s lives, you’ll forget who you are and you’ll forget to live the life you were meant to live.
You have been so focused on how to get to where they are that you don’t actually know what you like and where you want to be eventually. You’re just following in someone else’s footsteps.
I mean, if this is what you truly want deep down then go for it. I won’t try to convince you otherwise (even though that’s what I did this entire post) but I will ask this:
Why do you want to recreate what has already been done?
Don’t you want to try something new and create something yourself?
Don’t you want to be a leader? Not a follower?
Mini Update + Ending Note
That’s all I have for today. I’m starting to hit writer’s block. I think it’s because the holidays are over and my creative brain has been slowing down. But also because I am starting up a YouTube channel, which I am super enjoying by the way.
You heard it here first, I am cutting back on posting to once a week on this blog so that way I can put some time into my channel too.
Am I making the right decision with this? It’s a nice hobby for me. Having a creative outlet keeps me sane I’d say. I feel happier and more goal-driven than I have ever been before.
I hope you enjoyed this post. It’s a little different with a different vibe than normal. (I was semi rushed with this one and didn’t have as much passion as I normally do in my blog posts.)
Stop comparing yourself and have a great day!
This post was all about the best ways to not compare yourself and why.
popsiclesociety says
Great advice! We should embrace us and simply be us! We are unique! 😉
Lily-Anne says
Yes! Thank you for reading ❤️