This post is all about the best ways to have more self peace.
There was a time when I was happiest with no worry whatsoever. But that was 4 years ago. I had goals. I didn’t care what anyone around me thought. It was just me and what I was doing with my time. I had self peace.
I eventually lost that feeling because I got caught up in a situation that led to me forgetting about what I was living for. I lost my way and tried to find it again in other people (lol, definitely don’t do that, it sucks).
Eventually, I was able to get out of that bad rut and am on the path to experiencing self peace again.
Have you ever experienced that bad rut feeling? Do you want to experience getting out of that bad rut feeling to feel self peace instead?
Here are the 5 best ways to have more self peace. These are the tips that I followed 4 years ago and plan to start following again as you’re reading this to get me back to that peaceful feeling again.
This post is all about the best ways to have more self peace.
Disclaimer
All contents of this site are for informational purposes only. You are reading this at your own risk. It is not guaranteed that you will experience the anticipated results. The contents of this site should not be used as a replacement for professional guidance. I am not an expert in any of the topics that I cover on this site. These are my experiences that I want to share with you.
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Let’s Begin.
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5 Best Ways to Have More Self Peace
1. Say No More Often
Saying no means saying no to an outing that you don’t really want to go to.
It also means saying no to someone who asks you for a favor because you know you don’t have time for it. Or maybe don’t even want to do it in general.
When you say no more often, you are taking control of your own life.
There is this podcast that I started listening to recently. It’s called The School of Self hosted by Tonya Leigh.
The one thing she says that always stuck out for me was that we should stop reacting to life and be more in control of our life.
For example, if you get an email notification, our first instinct is to stop what we are doing, look at it and respond to it. That is reacting to life.
For us to take control of our life we need to be able to say to ourselves “No, I am going to finish what I am doing because whatever the notification is can wait.”
If you want to check out what all she has to say about all things self-help, you can click this link to her site. (Tonya Leigh, if I explained this concept wrong, I am very sorry but this is how I understood your content).
There are exceptions to this concept (of course) such as if you are actively waiting for a specific notification.
There is also the exception of an emergency; but I think that if it was a true emergency, you would be getting lots of calls and spam that will certainly get your attention.
Most of the time, the notifications can wait.
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2. Avoid Comparing Yourself
This is a major tip because I feel that almost everyone everywhere is comparing themselves to someone else.
Most of the comparisons that I have experienced were from my insecurities. I would blame social media for being part of this problem for sure.
When you compare yourself, you are subconsciously belittling yourself. You’re assuming that your life is not as grand as whoever else you are looking at.
Once you start comparing, you forget about the great things that your personal life has to offer. Then you start going down this spiral of negativity which could eventually lead to an overall negative way of thinking and living.
Trust me. People notice when you are overly negative and it’s not pretty. I’ve been there.
But very often, I have to remind myself that what I see in one moment is not always everything that there is.
I don’t know what is going on in the other person’s life behind their perceived perfect life. I don’t know what this person had to do or go through to get to that moment.
There is also the chance that the person I am comparing myself to is actually lying to everyone and making it seem like they live a perfect life. But in reality, they are just as insecure about themselves just like everyone else.
All I have to say is instead of looking at someone else’s life and thinking about what all they have that you don’t, think about what you do have.
Think about what you can do to get yourself to where you want to be.
Your perfect life is not going to be the same as someone else’s perfect life.
Once you get there, you’ll look back and see how silly you were to compare.
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3. Travel
For me, traveling abroad was the biggest nudge and reason I was able to experience self peace four years ago.
I took a trip out of the country for the first time and it was the best experience in my life (so far).
When you travel to a new country, you are forced to learn. You won’t hear your language in most areas and it forces you to judge less and appreciate what you see because you don’t know anything.
Traveling is also a nice break from what you have known your whole life. It opens your mind to more possibilities.
Since there was almost no one in this foreign country that I could understand and vice versa, I could be more myself. I never felt judged when I was abroad. And it’s just that.
Feeling judged is a feeling that I make myself feel. It’s easier in another country to feel free enough to not worry about someone else disliking what I am doing.
Sure, I might get looks every now and then if I did something that was out of their culture. But in the end, I’m never going to see them again (I used to live by this rule a lot and plan on bringing it back).
I also remember how I learned more about myself when I traveled abroad. This brings me to my next point.
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4. Declutter
This could mean decluttering your possessions. Or decluttering your social media. Or decluttering the people in your life. There are even simpler options like decluttering your phone storage.
Traveling abroad made me realize that I could live life out of a suitcase (and a house with furniture of course) and still be fine. (If you’re interested, you can read about my packing with only a carry-on and backpack here).
Everything I thought I needed to live was suddenly seen as items that were just wasting space and holding me back from reaching my full potential.
Examples of space wasters would be clothes I thought I’ll need in the future but never did or books that I thought I’ll one day read but never did. They all just collected dust.
If it didn’t spark joy, it was tossed away or donated.
I came home and cleaned out my room the Marie Kondo way and I have never felt better. I felt so light and free. It was the strongest letting go feeling I had ever had.
If someone saw me that first week I came back from my travel abroad, they might’ve thought I was obsessed with cleaning. I threw out so much stuff that I had accumulated over the years.
It’s kind of hard to explain now that I am sitting here trying to explain it to you. But pretty much, from that day on of decluttering, every day was a bright sunny day. I felt like I had my life together.
5. Have a LONG Social Media Detox
The longest I had ever gone without social media was 10 days when I traveled abroad the first time.
That was not by choice.
I went with my distant relatives and they thought I only needed my clothes, passport, and important paperwork.
I had my phone without service for 10 days because I forgot that my phone doesn’t work internationally.
There was internet from time to time but we were always on the go or sleeping so I never had time to sit on my phone.
This unplanned social media detox was another one of the best feelings in the world.
I realized that I didn’t need to know what was going on in other people’s lives 24/7. I only needed what was going on in my life at the moment.
Now, if you plan on traveling alone, you should definitely get international phone service. Something might happen and you might need to contact someone!
I was never alone.
What I’m trying to say is that a long social media, or even a technology detox, for at least a week is one of the best things you could do for yourself.
You can detox anywhere. Traveling is not necessary (Just make sure you tell your family and friends so they don’t think you got kidnapped or something).
Afterward, if this detox didn’t do anything for you, then go back to your old ways.
But I can almost guarantee that you are going to realize something you didn’t before.
Technology detoxing is a great learning experience. (You’ll have to get creative with your time too).
For me? I learned that I want to write about my experiences, plan and take action for my future, and live a happier, healthier lifestyle with more yeses.
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Ending Note
Well, there you have it. The 5 best ways to have more self peace (once experienced by me years ago).
Now, these tips will only work if you are consistent and follow through with the biggest commitment. Especially with the technology detox.
You can’t give in and say “oh just one check and then the challenge will be back on.”
No, no, no.
As soon as you start with the technology again, you’ve lost. You’ve sucked yourself back in and didn’t allow yourself to change your mindset of how you live.
You need to be strong and actively change bad habits.
Thinking about them isn’t enough. You have to do something about it.
Once you’ve helped yourself one by one, self peace will easily come and you will reach the feeling of no worry and pure bliss with a bright sunny day all day every day.
Let me know if you have any other tips or if mine worked for you. You should also let me know if you’ve experienced self peace once before or even now. I’d love to hear about your experiences.
Have a good day!
This post is all about the best ways to have more self peace.
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